I totally agree with you, the build up to an orgasm is a form of pain but after the real pain is in itself an orgasm, so like you I start softly and it dose get harder as I progress and it depends on my mind as to how long it lasts. xxx
no...i don't use too much pains....people shall feel constrained and depending but not hurt and maltraited.....so for me pains have to be in perfect balance with lust and excitment...thats a matter of individuals and of the specific situation.....so i normally start rather slowly and softly and get harder and tougher during the session.......